Ask Amy: New nitpicking boss brings on new problems
They’re asking us to go on another vacation with them, and we just don’t want to. We’ve tried the gentle excuse: “Oh, we tend to like different activities than you do.”
I’m willing to still see them occasionally socially because I can choose to go home if the night gets rough.
In my experience, they’re good about not driving when they’re drinking, so I don’t believe that how much they drink is my business.
But I just don’t want to spend a vacation with them.
How honest should we be?
– Wondering
Dear Wondering: First of all, a three-week vacation with any hard-drinking and hard-fighting couple seems less like a vacation and more like a summer stock run of “Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf?”
Your gentle excuse is a great place to start.
If they push harder, you could sharpen your point: “The drama between you two really ramps up when you’re drinking. It makes us uncomfortable.”
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