Ask Amy: A sports injury leads to hurt feelings
During our most recent text exchange, my sister first told me how dire dad's health is, and then insisted that he can recover.
Having been through something similar with my late husband, I know he will not. I suggested that she talk to someone about what dad will likely experience during palliative care, and that my mother might benefit from talking to a hospital chaplain about deciding between hospice or continuing with treatment.
I also said I will support my sister regardless of what path is chosen for his care, that I know how hard a decision like this can be, but that sometimes the most loving thing we can do is to let a person go.
My sister snapped back that a priest had prayed healing prayers over both parents that day.
Praying over someone is not the same as sitting down and conversing, and my father is not going to "heal."
I thanked her for letting me know and ended our conversation.
Do you think my best option is to simply thank her for any updates, and keep my mouth shut about everything else?
I want to help her through this.
– Upset
Dear Upset: You’ve been through this with your husband’s death. Now imagine managing two parents’ end-of-life care. That’s what your sister is dealing with.
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