Ask Amy: Self-taught expert oversteps with advice
Dear Amy: My daughter's boyfriend is a self-taught personal trainer (with no professional training).
He had previously been an airplane mechanic.
He acts like he's a medical doctor, constantly offering unsolicited advice.
I have asked my daughter (privately) to please make him stop. He follows all these weird and wacky diets that he sees on YouTube. At one point, he was actually eating sticks of butter with his meals. (Yes, just biting into and eating sticks of butter.)
He once lectured me for over 15 minutes on how I must add salt to my ice water. Um no — I should not.
Everything he says is excessive. There is no moderation. It's 100 percent or nothing.
The other day this led to a heated yelling match when I heard him tell my husband how he'd "fix" him with some quasi-medical cure.
I totally lost it. To my shame, I behaved horribly.
I yelled at him and told him we do not need his "medical advice." I even said that his own parents don't listen to him, so why should we?
I was totally wrong talking to him the way I did.