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Dear Amy: “Disappointed” planned a group trip, only to have people drop out after deposits had been paid.

This reminded me of lessons I've learned while trip planning: Everyone needs skin in the game.

If one person is booking and shelling out deposits for everything, the others can easily drop out at the last minute.

It's safer if one person handles car transportation, another arranges outings, another does the lodging, etc., — that way you're in it equally.

– Been There


Dear Been There: Great advice. It is also wise to pursue opportunities that offer refunds.


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