Ask Amy: Vaccination conflict interrupts friendship
Your neighbor has been frank with you regarding her own intentions. She is obviously upset that your son has refused the vaccine (and it seems that you are upset, too). The only difference is that he is your son. Your relationship with him overrides his choice.
Your neighbor has judged your family’s choices and has made this personal, and you took it personally, but please remember that each of us has to use our own best judgment to address a public health crisis that has hit home and become personal.
Your neighbor’s health may be more uncertain than you realize.
This virus poses more than a biological danger to people. It is also infecting relationships.
Dear Amy: I have been married for over 40 years.
When we started our marriage, my wife and I made an agreement to have both separate as well as joint accounts. That way she, who had quit her job in order to support our children, had her own money, just in case something unexpected happened in our marriage. It gave both of us a sense of security.
It is not a question of "trust", it is a question of "security" that all families should have. Even though we got married with the best of intentions, “stuff happens.”
By having separate finances (savings split three ways: individual as well as joint,) it gave us piece of mind that we would never be "trapped" in a marriage.
It also has a major benefit of helping the family financially in the event that one of us should die unexpectedly and the other two accounts are temporarily frozen.
I highly recommend that BOTH members of a marriage have a separate account and those that are working contribute to both.
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