Life Advice



Ask Amy: Risky roommate dynamic needs to change

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Amenities such as shopping or post office trips are a thing of the past.

Instead of a gift of perfumed powder, what she could really use are postage stamps and/or thank-you notes or a selection of birthday, get-well or sympathy cards to send out.

I am not a mother, but would like to speak for my fellow residents, many of whom are moms.

Can you pass the word along?

– Senior Living Resident

Dear Resident: This is fantastic advice. I would add that receiving mail – not just on special days – could help to spark enriching correspondences.

Dear Amy: “Bewildered” are a married couple that found out they have half-siblings through DNA testing.

Several years ago, I snooped through a significant other’s phone and found things that broke my heart and turned my life upside down for a long time.


I believe things truly happen for a reason, but ever since that day, I live steadfastly by the phrase: "If you can't handle what you find when you snoop, DON'T SNOOP."

– Figured it Out the Hard Way

Dear Figured: This is great advice. I will add that people who receive unexpected results might ask relatives, “Do you want to know what I’ve learned?” before blurting it out.


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