Ask Amy: Elaborate birthday bash disappoints host
You bet I took the cake! I ate it, too! It's been a year since this happened, and we haven't spoken since. What do you think?
– Curious Co-worker
Dear Co-worker: People sometimes compare the workplace to high school. In your case, it's more like kindergarten. You are not a grown-up. You are a thief. Consider yourself lucky your co-worker didn't notify management (or security) when you went into his lunchbox.
You can assume he was embarrassed by your generosity when he made wisecracks about the gift you gave him. His behavior was rude. Your behavior afterward defies explanation.
Dear Amy: Every December, my son gets invited to his friend "Brian's" birthday party. We always get him a gift that we know he will like.
I recently said to his mother that he must get a lot of presents in December with his birthday and Christmas so close together. She told me, "Oh, I have him choose half of his birthday presents to give to Toys for Tots. He only gets to keep half."
I feel that not only am I funding her charitable donations, but also her parenting.
Dear Scrooged: While it is possible that any gift you give any child could ultimately end up anywhere, this mother's admission that they always give half of these gifts away was insensitive.
The way she has arranged her charitable gesture is disingenuous and not fair to the young guests.
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