Ask Amy: Mom is mad when sister gives weed to son
I did not know about this fund being bequeathed to the friend.
As awkward and awful as it sounds, I would like to ask this friend to consider either splitting his inheritance with me or maybe providing me a forgivable loan.
I think he might be amenable, but I just don’t know how best to approach him about this request:
Should I call him or write a letter?
Should I just ask or plead?
Thank you for any insight or advice.
— Hate to Ask
Dear Hate To Ask: This is a tough “ask,” because, unless you can come up with a solid justification for taking some of this man’s inheritance, you don’t have much of a case.
“It’s not fair that you got more than I did” doesn’t seem like a solid reason.
You might do best asking for a “forgivable loan,” but my understanding of these loans is that the amount (or a high percentage of it) would be forgiven if you satisfied certain benchmarks. In your case, you’d have to decide what these might be before making your pitch.
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