Ask Amy: Extreme judgment might lead to radical acceptance
Sometimes, our harshest judgments of others will reveal our own vulnerabilities.
This may seem a little out there, but I believe that you and your family members are all struggling with a concept widely defined as “self-love.” They both soothe and punish themselves by overeating. You punish yourself by hating your own attitude.
Look into the concept of “radical acceptance.” Learning to truly accept a situation or person while exposed to their faults and frailties will liberate you.
I think of this as learning to love people “… anyway.”
Tell your therapist! Exposing the thing you hate about yourself is how you will begin to heal.
Dear Amy: About five years ago, my mom gave each of her four daughters something from her house, in preparation for a move.
I received the family silver because my last name matches the engraving. My two younger sisters received little trinkets and family heirlooms.
The issue is with our older sister, who received all of the photo albums.
There are about eight of them, one devoted to each of the daughters, of extended family members, our parents, and ancestors.
Amy, this is my past!
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