Ask Amy: COVID concerns disrupt long friendships
The clinical term I’ve assigned to this is: The Ryan Gosling Effect.
The trick here is not to leave this at the gym, but to take all of this energy back home to your partner.
Dear Amy: You handle lots of questions from people who wonder why they should remember others’ special occasions if they don’t feel adequately thanked.
Recently, a reader questioned continuing to send birthday cards and gifts to others who only honored her birthday with a text.
You counseled her to continue sending a warm note and gift.
Your advice was spot on! We don't do nice things for people because THEY are nice. We do them because WE are nice.
— Alan, in Aurora Colorado
Dear Alan: You framed this giving concept much better than I did, and I owe you a very sincere thank you! (The note’s in the mail.)
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