Ask Amy: COVID concerns disrupt long friendships
Dear Amy: I've been married for almost 40 years, pretty much happily.
My husband and I still enjoy an active sex life. We are comfortable empty-nesters with good lives.
So why do I crush on guys at the gym? I’ve had crushes on two different men I see regularly while working out.
My current crush is not a youngster — he is definitely older than my kids (30+) — but I'm so attracted to him.
Honestly, it makes my day when I see him there. We've never spoken, but we recognize each other. Seeing him there is exciting.
I know this is silly, but I look forward to going to the gym just in case he's there.
I want to do more than just look, but I know that nothing would ever happen between us.
Help!
— Perplexed
Dear Perplexed: Crushing on, or being attracted to, people other than your partner means that you are a human being in the prime of your life — healthy, and presumably feeling good. Your eyes still work, your pheromones are doing their job (his, too!), your workouts are giving you energy, and you are feeling attractive, and attracted.
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