Ask Amy: First cancer hits, then heartbreak follows
I now live with my fiancé. His son just spent a month visiting us.
Every night I prepared and provided a healthy, home-cooked meal: Garden vegetables, shrimp, filet, pork, fish, different salads and grains.
Never once did I get a “thank you.”
The last night, I even said, "I hope a different meal routine and food variety was a nice change." He actually said, "Nah, I always manage."
The lack of expression of gratitude infuriates me.
To be fair, most other aspects of the visit went well.
What are my best options to communicate this? It would be hard to cover up my resentment.
— Gracious, Resentful Cook
Dear Gracious: Don’t blame your fiance’s son for not biting the hook during your attempt to fish for gratitude and a compliment. He sounds unsophisticated.
But there is another person at the table: his father. Your fiance should model kindness, respect and gratitude — acknowledging your effort before eating and thanking you afterward — and show his son that a grateful diner also clears the table and cleans up after a delicious meal.
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