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She's a genuinely nice person and I'm certain she's kind to everyone.

Then on social media, she attacked a politician I truly admire.

I just can't go back to her as if nothing happened. I just can't go back at all.

Should I ghost her, or should I tell her that I'm switching stylists, and why? I don't really want to make her feel bad, because she's not a bad person. We just disagree.

— Going Gray

Dear Going Gray: You seem to like this hairstylist very much. You acknowledge that she is a good person and is kind to everyone. I assume that she is good at her job.

You say that she “attacked” this politician on social media, but you don’t mention any other details regarding this attack. Did she use foul language? Was this attack personal, untrue, or deliberately offensive? Did you respond to her post, expressing your own views and urging her to reconsider hers?

What you seem to be saying is that you cannot patronize the business of someone who openly opposes the politician that you like.

You have the right to patronize any business you want. You don’t need to explain your departure, unless she contacts you for a follow-up appointment and asks why you aren’t continuing your business with her.

If you do decide to explain yourself, you could say, “I am so sensitive that I simply cannot tolerate the fact that you don’t like my favorite politician, and that you’ve expressed your view, publicly. My scalp and follicles simply won’t stand for it, so I’ve decided to take my business elsewhere.

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