Ask Amy: Grandparents risk heath to see grandson
There is no one way to respond to a postponed wedding, but the best way is always to anchor to sincerity and kindness.
I suggest you send your gift (along with a warmly written letter) to coincide with their wedding ceremony. You might also want to donate masks or other PPE in their honor to a nearby hospital or nursing home.
Dear Amy: I disagreed with your response to "Sad Dad," whose very accomplished daughter was missing her high school graduation (along with the rest of her class, and so many others). A family member had responded to this sadness by saying, basically, "That's life. Buck up."
I couldn't believe that you agreed with this! Wow, are you always this mean?
-- Upset
Dear Upset: The family member didn't say "buck up," but, "Welcome to adult life. How you handle bad luck and disappointment will determine your long-term success."
I agreed with this statement, and said it should have been offered with more gentleness and compassion. Then: "My heart goes out to these kids. I wish I could take each and every one of them to the prom."
And I sincerely mean that.
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