Ask Amy: Partner's proximity breeds contempt
-- Stuck in Florida
Dear Stuck: Scores of people have figured out how to communicate, maintain family ties, and celebrate birthdays and other special occasions without risking their health, or the health of others.
As I write this, the concept of "contract tracing" is being discussed, and you can well imagine that the presence of just one extra person visiting your household might potentially bring you into possible viral contact with dozens of other people. Obviously, if "Wendy" has close contact with her son, and also contact with you, you wearing a mask when around him might not protect you as much as you think (although you should continue to do so).
All the same, this is Wendy's house. This could be one of those times when ownership conveys power.
You seem to be doing your best to stay safe within this household, and that is all you can do at this point. Once you pack your bags and are able to safely decamp to your northern home, you will be able to consider the residual damage to your relationship.
Perhaps, in your frustration, you have treated your partner like a child.
Unfortunately, now she seems to be acting like one.
Dear Amy: My wife is an alcoholic. Although she has been to a facility two times for in-patient rehab, she still drinks.
I'm dealing with this the best I can during the coronavirus pandemic, which has made all our lives more difficult -- for various reasons.
My question to you is: Why were liquor stores allowed to remain open during this pandemic? Is this an "essential business"? So many businesses were forced to close, and this was one I thought we could do without.
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