Ask Amy: Employee in dream job gets a 'B'
I've learned the reason she did this is that she wanted to continue to receive monetary benefits that her late husband had earned while he was alive, (like Social Security).
I'm sure her family and friends would have been just as happy for her if she had a commitment ceremony.
I believe in the institution of marriage and the traditions and formality of it, just as she has always espoused, too. Do you have any advice or direction for those of us that have learned of this deception?
-- Deceived
Dear Deceived: You (personally) should express yourself, simply and directly, to "Barb" and her deception-partner: "I want you both to know how upset I am regarding your wedding-that-wasn't. I feel totally deceived, and believe that you owe me an apology."
Dear Amy: Thank you for running the letter from "Bored Dad," who admitted to succumbing to boredom during the COVID shelter-in-place.
Yes! I agree with you that boredom can be a gift. Modern life has not equipped us to simply be still and let our minds wander.
-- Wandering
Dear Wandering: Free association can lead to ideas, insight, or mentally cataloguing every episode of Seinfeld. It's OK!
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