Ask Amy: Middle son sends folks on guilt trip
Do we ask his parents to exclude us from the festivities and invite our son and his wife instead? Your thoughts?
-- Invited
Dear Invited: It seems strange that the parents are communicating about the wedding guest list, instead of the groom and bride.
You imply that you have been invited because you can afford to give a gift. This seems an unkind assumption to make. And, of course, you could give a gift even if you hadn't been invited.
You should not dictate the guest list. You could try to clarify this by asking the parents, "Are you sure the marrying couple wouldn't rather have our son and his wife at the wedding, instead of us? If so, we totally understand."
Dear Amy: I totally disagree with your terrible advice to "A Very Concerned Son," who called 911 after his mother kept repeating herself over the phone.
Since when does anyone have the right to send a bunch of strangers storming into someone's private home?
If one of my kids did this, I'd never speak to them again.
-- Upset
Dear Upset: I wonder how you would react if one of your kids exhibited alarming behavior, indicating a possible medical crisis?
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