Ask Amy: Twentysomething struggles with work-life balance
Dear Lea: This arrangement sounds ideal. I agree with you that the North American concept of rugged individualism may have created a stigma about adults living with their folks, but this same concept also allows you to ignore the stigma, and live as you please.
Dear Amy: Your advice to "Hair Today, Gone Tomorrow" was off base.
This girls' volleyball coach had insisted that she shave her arm pits and legs.
She wears a "uniform," as in, the coach wants his team to look "uniform."
If this young woman wants to play volleyball that badly, then she should follow the coaches' rules.
Sure, there is gender discrimination in the world, but this smacks of too much micro-feedback, and to call it discrimination goes way too far.
Instead of supporting the coach and his idea of how to be proud of his team, you rule in favor of a young teenager who now learns that she can go over his head to the school administrator for stupid stuff.
-- Margie
Dear Margie: In my mind, demanding that this young athlete shave her body is the essence of "micro-feedback." As I said in my response, unless male volleyball players are also asked to shave, I think this girl should be left alone.
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