Ask Amy: Daughter-in-law has had it with the baby talk
I have been invited to an Oscar Night party, and she will still be in town during that weekend.
I would like to include her in my plans, as she doesn't have anything else to do that night.
I asked the host if I could bring a plus one to the gathering. The host replied that it was a small group and they would prefer not to entertain an extra.
Well, now what do I do? I can see the situation from all sides. The host shouldn't feel obligated to include another guest and I shouldn't be expected to cancel. But I also feel bad that my guest has nothing to do that night.
What would be a good way to handle this situation, and similar ones in the future?
-- Good Host
Dear Host: You sound like a very thoughtful and accommodating friend. However, if your guest is with you for several weeks on an unscheduled visit, she is going to face a few instances where she will have to entertain herself. You have a previous commitment; she has a (presumably cozy) place to stay. She should be grateful for your hosting and understanding about your dilemma.
She'll have to sashay solo down the Oscar red carpet this year.
Dear Amy: You answer a lot of questions about how to communicate across the political divide. Unfortunately, all of your questions seem to be from liberals who hate Trump supporters. Wow. Biased much?
-- Disenchanted
Dear Disenchanted: My theory is that these days liberals simply feel more aggrieved. I assume this goes with the territory of the "underdog," but my advice -- to talk and to listen -- runs both ways.
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