Ask Amy: Girl wonders how to change custody
Dear Stumped: These sites aren't really "dating" sites, but "matching" sites. All the site does is to create possible matches. Meeting and dating happens later.
Yes, I believe you are asking these women to meet you too soon. The idea is to use the site to see if there is a mutual attraction or interest, and then to use the communication tool to see if you have a rapport.
Many women don't want to meet a stranger before she feels a level of comfort concerning his identity and intentions. For many people, this requires more than a "line or two" of back and forth. Perhaps you should practice building rapport online. Wait to see if the woman suggests meeting. When you do, meet during the day for coffee.
Dear Amy: In your answer to "Unsure Grandmother," you gave a call out to grandparents who are raising their grandchildren, calling them "heroes."
Thank you. My husband and I are currently doing this, and we know others who have sacrificed their own retirements in order to parent young children.
-- Tired
Dear Tired: You put the "grand" in grandparents. Heroic, indeed.
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