Ask Amy: Enjoy the lunch, but hold the private details
Am I wrong to think it would have been kinder to simply regift the dish, or simply dispose of it, rather than returning it to me?
-- Casserolled
Dear Casserolled: Because a casserole is a word describing both a baked dish and also the dish it is baked in, I take it that this dish was returned to you, food intact.
I agree with you that this is strange, and rude. This was a kind and generous gesture on your part. When receiving gifts of food, there is no rule that this food must be consumed and enjoyed, but the dish (sans food) should be returned, clean, and the giver should be thanked.
Dear Amy: This is for "Disappointed," your reader who thinks that a man grabbing a woman's crotch is a minor infraction.
Any form of sexual misconduct should be called out.
Public cases show how long an abuser gets away with this behavior when not reported.
Reporting an event can help to prevent this conduct from being forced onto others.
-- Upset
Dear Upset: Many readers have reacted to the question similarly. If this sort of behavior goes unchallenged, then it continues. In a worst-case scenario, this sort of drunken groping could escalate into a more serious assault.
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