Ask Amy: Older father hates Granddad assumptions
I'm thinking more along the lines of a commitment service, but I don't know much about it, or who to contact.
What are your thoughts and feelings on my thoughts and feelings?
-- Wondering Widow
Dear Wondering: My thoughts and feelings are mainly celebratory. Karma, indeed!
I will also offer my casual, non-scientific observation that older men tend to embrace remarriage, while older women don't seem to be quite so keen.
You and your guy should explore all of the legal ramifications of being together, both with and without marriage. You should see your attorney regarding practical matters like insurance, household finances, and estate planning.
A commitment ceremony might be a fun and appropriate way to celebrate your togetherness. There is no one way to do this -- but basically it is like a wedding ceremony without the legal attachment.
A friend or clergy member could perform the ceremony and you could write your own vows and publicly declare your commitment to one another in front of friends and family. You might want to plan this event for six months from now, after you've both adjusted to your togetherness.
Dear Amy: The question from "Love-in-Law," where a man said he was in love with his wife's sister made my blood boil.
Thank you for stating: "You feel guilty because you ARE guilty."
-- Grateful Reader
Dear Grateful: When someone confesses to infidelity and then wonders why he feels guilty -- the answer writes itself.
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