His ex and current girlfriends circle each other
I have mixed feelings about ultimatums. I think you should decide what you want in a long-term relationship, and then pursue your own ideal.
If you want a fully integrated love relationship where both partners freely share their lives, friends and family, you'll probably have to seek it with a different person. That's not an ultimatum, but a choice.
Dear Amy, Six weeks ago we invited our adult married son and his wife to a special ticketed event. I asked my son three different times before I made the purchase: "Are you sure you can and will go?" He and his wife both said, "Yes, we will go. We said we would go, and we will go."
So I bought the expensive tickets (great seats) four nonrefundable tickets in all for $340.
Then I get a phone call from my son, who told me that they were not going. He told me it's "not their thing" and that the event interfered with their three-day weekend (we had also discussed that before we purchased the tickets).
He told us to invite someone else.
I told them it was not my job to try and resell these tickets or invite another couple. I told him I expected them to pay us $160.
I mailed their two tickets to them and sent them a bill for $160.
Why should we get stiffed?
My son said he would be mailing the tickets back to us.
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