Lost love resurfaces as soul mate
Dear Philip: One way to deal with your (perceived) neediness would be to channel it in ways that don't overly burden your friends.
I hope you are participating in meetings to support your sobriety. You might consider becoming a sponsor as a way to connect with and help someone else. A grief group could also be very helpful for you. Contact your local hospice center or hospital for recommendations.
It is OK to have needs. It is OK to have feelings, emotions and challenges. Your true friends will understand that your neediness may flare, but friendship should involve a balanced exchange, where both parties' needs are being met.
Dear Amy: Wow. I was not prepared for the letter from "In a Quandary," the man who wrote of his wife's illegal abortion, pre-Roe v. Wade.
I found this very powerful. I appreciated his willingness to tell his story, and your choice to run it in your column.
-- Supportive
Dear Supportive: The response to this letter has surprised me a little bit -- and has been extremely supportive.
(You can email Amy Dickinson at askamy@amydickinson.com or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)
