Lost love resurfaces as soul mate
-- Lost
Dear Lost: You ask what I would do, but this isn't about me; it's about you.
You and your guy "Brad" are not married. You say you have been honest with him about the rekindling of your attachment to "Steve." I'm not sure why Brad doesn't feel betrayed by you, but according to you he is willing (if not happy) to release you from the relationship.
You are consciously and deliberately interfering in someone else's marriage, and that is unethical. The ethical course is for you to state your truth, and then to tell Steve: "Get in touch with me after you have exited your marriage, and we'll take it from there."
There is also a child involved in this drama (Brad's daughter). If you leave him, you will be leaving her, too.
I've always believed the whole "soul mate" concept was a stretch, but once you and he are unencumbered by other relationships and commitments, you will be free to test it for yourself.
Dear Amy: I feel like I'm spinning out of control.
I'm four years sober, and the love of my life died a year ago. This will always hurt, and I understand that. I'm in my early 50s.
I've been trying to get out and meet people and make friends, but I sense a needy side to myself that I do not like. I know neediness is something that can drive people away. I've been an introvert my whole life. I'm not on social media, by choice. The few connections I've made are special to me, and I'm in fear of wearing them out (calling too much, or texting). Tell me, what am I getting wrong?
-- Philip in East Texas
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