Open marriage creates unstable triangle
Your job is not to manage your partner's feelings or reactions, but to manage your own. How do you feel when your husband expresses such an extreme reaction? You should be honest with him about the impact of his behavior on you.
Otherwise, you could point to patterns to help your husband recognize and perhaps better manage his own fears: "Every time Ray behaves this way, you are sent into a tailspin. Can you look at this pattern and trust the process so that you might not always be put through the wringer?"
Riding the emotional roller coaster is potentially damaging to his health, as well as being destructive to your relationship with each other.
Dear Amy: My friend is married with two children. We are close and we share almost everything. She is a talented person, but her marriage is an unhappy one. She has a lot of activities to compensate.
She recently had a married male "close friend" she often talked to about her marriage problems. They texted back and forth a lot. She told me he was always kind and understanding. They became very close.
This man seemed like a gentleman, since he mostly listened and did not share anything improper with my friend. Most of the time, my friend dominated their texting chats.
The man's wife eventually found out about their communication and he stopped immediately.
Lately, my friend asked me to contact him to ask why he stopped communicating with her (her number was blocked).
When I refused, she became extremely upset and hostile.
What can I do? Should I contact him so she won't be upset? She is very unhappy right now. Aren't we all entitled to our own happiness?
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