The cheating is over, but the hurting continues
The busier you are, the less you will dwell on this -- or any one thing. You should exercise, take a fitness class, join a playgroup (if you're a parent), or take up yoga -- in short, do anything you can do to connect with other people during the day, while engaged in healthy pursuits.
Meditation can also help to keep the rumination at bay. The more mindful and "present" you are, the less you will dwell on this betrayal. It's time to truly forgive your wife and to commit to loving yourself -- and her -- fully and freely.
Dear Amy: I attended a festive gathering last weekend. There were about 20 people present, with 10 children in the mix, ages 3 to 13.
The 3-year-old was busy riding toy cars and exploring various objects in the home -- you might say he was busy exploring his new environment -- surely par for the course for a child his age.
But then during the dinner, he persisted on shrieking multiple times.
I found this behavior to be totally inappropriate and quite distressing.
The boy's parents made feeble attempts to quiet him, but the shrieking continued.
I wish one of his parents would have removed him from the dining area. I think that would have been the responsible thing to do, and it would have sent a message that his shrieking was not welcome while others were eating and talking.
I don't have children, but am I being insensitive here? Was he just being a 3-year-old who was exploring his vocal range?
When does someone become "too old" to shriek in public without cause?
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