Parent worries about son's Michael Jackson fandom
And so it is with this musical genius and icon (and many other icons). This real person hurt children.
If you find the right moment, you should say to your son, "Michael Jackson was an amazing performer! But I want you to know that he also hurt some children when he was a grownup. My job is to try to always tell you the truth about things. So you can listen to his music and love his music, but I want you to know this about him."
Your son might be interested in becoming a musician or dancer. Make sure he sees footage of young Michael performing with the Jackson Five.
And also introduce him to appropriate selections of the work of other artists like Beyonce, Usher, Justin Timberlake, the Backstreet Boys, Prince, Bruno Mars, vintage Justin Bieber, and of course, Janet Jackson. Many of these performers also started their musical careers as children -- and this idea might appeal to your son. He might enjoy watching the G-rated fan film about Bieber's career, "Never Say Never," which features clips of the singer as a tiny talent, busking on the street corner.
I don't assume that any artists are angels (Sinatra, anyone?), but because Jackson has been accused of crimes against children, his legacy carries a unique challenge for fans.
Dear Amy: Every year, I try to give up something for Lent. This year I'm attempting to give up alcohol, but I'm really nervous that I won't be able to do it. I'm not a heavy drinker by any stretch but the more I think about it, the more I wonder if I can give up that nightly glass, or two, of wine.
I've never tried this before. Do you have any words of wisdom for how to succeed?
-- Tippler
Dear Tippler: Many people choose to give up alcohol, either during the Lenten season, or just after Christmas ("Dry January" -- it's a thing!). For one thing, it helps to "check" your consumption, and also leads many people to lose weight from eliminating alcohol's empty calories.
There are also spiritual benefits to going without. Your fear is exactly why you should embrace the challenge.
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