Former flame worries about loan repayment
Dear Finding: Not every relationship must somehow hue to a predictable path. I hope you will detach more from these phony benchmarks and pay closer attention to the matter currently before you: the daily effort to communicate honestly -- about everything. Your guy's choice to "outsource" intimacy is worrying.
Learning to talk about things that are hard to talk about is a true cause for celebration.
Postpone the Champagne until you feel true trust and intimacy.
Dear Amy: I can't believe your hysteria over pot smoking. Marijuana is not the source of all evil, Amy. "Parents in Despair" were worried about their teen's behavior. You blamed the pot. I blame the teen.
Shame on you.
-- Responsible Adult
Dear Adult: These parents reported that their 17-year-old is high every day. Yes, I'd say his marijuana use is a major factor that should not be ignored.
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