Family holiday drama brings on big changes this year
Dear Concerned: You don't say whether you rent or are an owner, but it is increasingly common for smoking to be banned in homes sharing a common wall -- for the reason you cite. Marijuana smoke is especially pungent, and even if this next-door exposure doesn't prove toxic to you or your children, the smell alone is really noxious.
You should speak with your neighbors. You say they are "great;" there is a real likelihood that they simply don't realize the impact their smoking has on your family.
Say, "Hey, I want you to know that we are getting slammed by pot smoke over here. It's especially strong in 'Benny's room. It's like it comes right through the walls. Can you guys smoke outside?"
Depending on their response, you will want to refer to your lease, condo or HOA rules to see what rules are in place, and enforceable.
Dear Amy: "Worried Grad" wondered how to reach out to his college crush, two years after graduation.
Thank you for encouraging him to do this, and for offering ideas for what to say.
I contacted my college crush out of the blue -- and out of the blue, we fell in love!
-- Happy
Dear Happy: The thing to remember is to keep the contact light, and to not exert any pressure.
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