'Tech widow' wants to get husband's attention
If your husband isn't able or willing to make time for the two of you, then you have a bigger problem than can be remedied by a cute "bid," or through "nagging."
Dear Amy: My mother is a loving and involved grandmother to my three children. The problem is that she very obviously favors my oldest daughter -- to the point that she pays limited attention to the younger children unless the oldest is not in the room.
When this has been pointed out to her, she has promised to do better, but she always forgets and goes back to previous patterns. My younger children are young enough that I don't think they are aware of the favoritism, but it will soon be obvious to them.
I'm not sure what my options are, except to limit access to all three children. I don't want to cut off their relationship with their grandmother, but I also don't want my two younger children to be hurt or their relationships to their sister to suffer. What do I do?
Mother in the Middle
Dear Mother: Don't respond to this by limiting access to all three children, but by encouraging your mother to experience some one-on-one time with the two younger children.
You present some evidence that your mother's favoritism stems mainly from her not knowing the younger children very well (she already knows the oldest well). Don't lump these kids together into one overwhelming toddler-blob, but nudge her toward private and unique experiences with each.
Remind her that it isn't good for the dynamic between the siblings when she so obviously favors one.
Dear Amy: Thank you for saying in your column what a dangerous habit "vaping" is. I work in a high school and have found the use of vaping products among our students really alarming.
Concerned Teacher
Dear Teacher: Parents and educators need to educate kids about the risks of vaping. Nicotine is known to be addictive, and the liquid in vaping devices is unregulated -- do people know exactly what is contained in their Juul pod?
The prospect of yet another generation getting hooked on nicotine is heartbreaking.
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