Child care provider becomes canine-carer
My wife and I are extremely upset! Our daughter is a toddler, but well-behaved. My instinct is to politely respond that we will no longer be attending the wedding. There will be several family members coming from out of town we barely see and would've liked the opportunity for them to see our daughter.
They are certainly free to invite whomever they want to their wedding, but to me the whole point is to gather family and friends to celebrate the union of two people.
What should I do? I feel like I will still be angry with him come the day of the wedding because my daughter is part of my family and should be there.
Upset Cousin
Dear Upset: You don't get to decide what the point of your cousin's wedding is. A wedding is a sacred ceremony and -- in this case -- also a party for grown-ups. I infer that this wedding is being held near where you live, which would make it easier for you to secure child care, as well as welcome out-of-town family members to your home for an introduction to your toddler.
If you can't understand this and manage to rein in your anger, then yes, it sounds as if your family should stay home.
Dear Amy: The question from "Inconsolable" made me see red. This woman was upset that her extra-marital affair had ended. I was worried that you would find a way to sympathize with her. I'm glad you called her out as the selfish person she is!
Relieved
Dear Relieved: This was the rare question that elicited absolutely no sympathy from me.
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