New homeowners are now victims of harassment
Through one of the coworkers, we've been told that no one except the coworkers are invited!
Many are no longer planning to attend, and feel that this is not proper etiquette for a wedding.
How should we address this, or how do we bow out without causing hard feelings on both sides?
-- Upset Coworkers
Dear Coworkers: It sounds as if "Kris" is trying to put together a table of coworkers, as a way to include you all in a wedding she has been talking about for the last year.
Yes, spouses should be included in an invitation, but hosts are under no obligation to include a "plus one" for single people, unless they have live-in or long-term partners.
I can imagine that this coworker might not have met any (or many) of the spouses of her coworkers; I can also imagine a spouse not necessarily wanting to attend the wedding of someone who is not necessarily a personal friend, but a work-friend.
The way to handle this is not to confront "Kris" over her gaffe, but -- if you don't want to attend without a spouse -- to simply RSVP your regrets to her invitation, while also congratulating her and wishing her a very happy wedding day.
Dear Amy: I was concerned by the question from "Lonely in the Burbs." While you made a number of suggestions for how she might feel less lonely, you never suggested that she should volunteer!
Volunteering gives people access to possible friendships; it also gives lonely people a true sense of purpose.
-- Avid Volunteer
Dear Volunteer: Absolutely. In addition to serving the needs of the volunteer, volunteering (of course) also contributes valuable service to the organization.
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