Son's whirlwind womanizing has father worried
Neither choice feels right.
Do you have any advice other than, "we have to let our kids make their own decisions"?
-- Upset Father
Dear Father: What were you doing at the age of 25?
Twenty-five-year-olds serve in the military, fight wildfires, start companies, run for office, choose their own romantic partners and become parents.
And yes, 25-year-olds also sometimes make boneheaded choices.
"Parenting" someone this age can be an exercise in frustration, as you struggle to detach from someone you have watched (and worried over) since birth.
Now, in adulthood, your son's life choices have accelerated past your ability to understand and control them. And yet, his choices actually have nothing to do with you. You don't need to necessarily celebrate or enable his decisions. Nor do you need to weigh in with your adult knowledge or instinct of how foolhardy this particular choice might be.
The beauty here is that you are off the hook regarding your son.
And yes, you should be supportive -- or at the very least, neutral -- regarding your son's partner.
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