ArcaMax

Dear Sleepless: This man is doing what is best for him. His actions seem selfish -- and self-centered. And now you must do what is best for you. Is it best for you to sit and wait to be told what will happen next? I don't think so, even if your heart and your body seem stuck in that tough limbo state.

It is terrible to be left. You upended and uprooted your life to be in this other relationship. You also initiated an abandonment when you left your marriage.

(I suspect that you both might have used the promise of this relationship to leave your marriages.)

From where I sit, a guy who encourages you to leave a spouse, and who then dumps you (and takes money from you in the process), isn't worth waiting for.

Yes, you should say goodbye. When you release him from this relationship, you will also release yourself. For now, focus on whatever lessons this episode can teach you. I also think you should explore legal remedies to get your money back. Tell him you need it to pay for your own therapy.

Dear Amy: I am 33 years old. When I got married seven years ago, my parents invited their friends, "Bob and Anne" to the wedding.

Bob and Anne have two children, who were in college at that time. We didn't know their children very well, so my parents addressed the invitation to just Bob and Anne.

They RSVP'd for four and ended up bringing their adult children anyway.

My parents did not want to cause a friendship rift, so they let it happen.

Now, Bob and Anne's oldest child, "Mary," is getting married and has invited my parents, me and my adult brother.

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