Overindulged daughters suffer from affluenza
Given how indulged these girls are, there is no need for you to go shopping with them, but they might not know how to do much else. Be very patient with them. Being overindulged and basically having material things thrown at you is depleting and sensory-shifting. Think of their time with you as a gentle detox.
Set up piggy banks and saving accounts for both girls, encourage them to save and learn to spend wisely.
Dear Amy: Several years ago, my sister died, leaving behind two young children.
Now they are older and want to know what my sister was like growing up.
I don't know what to say. My sister was cruel and violent to almost everyone.
I don't believe in criticizing anyone's parent, but I really can't come up with any happy memories. What do I say?
-- Conflicted Sister
Dear Conflicted: You should be circumspect in discussing your sister, but you should also be honest. Share any photos or letters (if appropriate) you have of the family during childhood.
You can say, "Honestly, she was a challenging person when we were kids. We didn't really get along very well. But she loved you like crazy and I know she would be so proud of you."
Do not say anything to these young adults that you might have to walk back later, but do answer their questions, if you can.
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