Elderly mom drives her kids crazy, driving round the block
I'm asking you to help her let go.
Don't threaten, wag your finger, or tsk tsk her. You are not an 89-year-old woman. You don't know what it feels like. Be humble enough to recognize this.
After you have this calmer and more compassionate encounter with your mother, you'll have to use your own judgment regarding what to do. If you place a non-emergency call to the local police station, an officer might be willing to swing by to check on her and confirm that she is not driving -- even around the block -- without a license.
Dear Amy: I have a dilemma. My daughter, who is 22, confided in me that one of her best friends from high school smokes pot.
My daughter does not hang out with her because they attend different colleges.
I was very close to this girl when she was growing up. She was at my house all the time. Her mom and I are still very good friends.
My daughter says to stay out of it and to not tell her mom.
I was very disappointed to hear this about my daughter's friend. I'm not sure what I should do. What do you think? Should I tell the mother what the daughter is doing?
-- Worried
Dear Worried: I don't think you should do anything. Would you report back to this mother if her (legal age) daughter had a cocktail?
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