Rape victim wonders if childhood assault was her fault
Dear Techie: I'm going to start by making an unscientific and very general observation, that younger people are actually better behaved in terms of their phone etiquette than older people. My theory is that they have trained themselves and each other regarding what is acceptable, based on what they can personally tolerate. The young adults I know all say they have a no-tolerance attitude toward phone use during meals.
If your friend calls you and then constantly interrupts the call she initiated in order to yell at various members of her household, then yes, dodging her calls seems rational.
In the first instance, you should respond: "Wow, I really didn't like it that you took that call and had an entire conversation, while I'm sitting here in front of you."
Dear Amy: In your response to "Wanting Romance," you suggested that this wife who wanted hearts and flowers should recognize her husband's efforts as romantic gestures. Fair enough. But how about suggesting that "Wanting" become a "provider" herself, so that her husband doesn't have to break his back working 50 hours/week? He might be more inclined to romance if he wasn't exhausted all the time.
-- Another Perspective
Dear Perspective: Great advice. Thank you.
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