Husband and wife disagree over work-life balance
It would be very easy for your husband to simply deliver a loving lie and say to you, "Well, honey, you will always be Number One."
But realistically, and speaking from my vantage point on the far side of a very long career, there are times when work has to come first, but there are also times when I've simply wanted to put work first. There are also times -- many times -- when work takes a back seat. A more nuanced view for both of you would be to look at life as a waxing and waning of needs and interests through time.
By all means, do not have children until you are comfortable with the work-life balance in both of your lives.
Dear Amy: My husband is an emotional driver. Last weekend, there was heavy traffic and another car was basically tailgating us. He got so emotional that he decided to hit the brakes, turn on the emergency flashers and lay on the horn.
This is the second time that he pulled this kind of stunt. I've told him before that he cannot do this with our BABY secured in the backseat.
The last time he did this, he never apologized for it, and I let him off the hook.
What can I say to get through to him?
-- Emotional Driver's Wife
Dear Driver's Wife: I think the conversation with your husband should start with: "You deliberately almost caused an accident. I will not let you drive with our child in the car until you acknowledge that you have a problem, and make an effort to stop it."
While I agree that being tailgated is dangerous (and very annoying), what you're describing here isn't emotional driving, it's raging and aggressive driving, and it's very dangerous. If this behavior is not checked, it could lead not only to a traffic accident, but to a tragic confrontation with another raging driver.
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