Mother's cancer gets in the way of a wedding
Dear Amy: Last April my mother was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer.
This past Labor Day, I got engaged.
Now my fiancee and I are trying to make our wedding plans.
I would like to get married sooner rather than later, as my mother's prognosis is not great.
My fiancee would like more time to plan our wedding -- and enjoy the process.
I fully understand this, and would like to have more time myself.
In addition, her parents are paying the majority of the wedding costs, and are worried about losing a deposit if something happens. Any advice?
-- Confused Fiance
Dear Confused: I can think of another person who would like to have more time to "enjoy the process," and that is your mother.
I (almost) hate to do this, but I have a rhetorical question for you: What kind of person is this woman you are planning to marry, who gets engaged -- already knowing that her future mother-in-law has pancreatic cancer -- but doesn't feel compelled to do everything possible to make sure her beloved's mother will be able to attend and enjoy the wedding?
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