Family legacy of abuse visits next generation
You can expect her to react defensively and negatively, but you should hope that hearing this causes some longer-term reflection. (Don't report talking to her friend about this -- she will see your conversation as a serious breach of privacy.)
Understand that when someone hears, "You're unhappy," it can seem like an accusation. Don't tell her, "You don't seem happy," but do say, "Your happiness is important to me. Can I help?"
Dear Amy: I work for a large grocery chain. One of the most common items in our "lost and found" box is canes.
Some of these canes are not cheap and end up in the trash.
Recently I retrieved one that had its owner's name and number on it.
I made a quick call and a home health care worker arrived to retrieve it.
I wanted to put the word out that people should label their canes.
-- Grocery Worker
Dear Worker: This is a very helpful suggestion. In addition to returning canes to their owners, I hope you can find a place to donate those canes that cannot be returned.
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