Mom wonders about live-in guy's meds
Tell your boyfriend that you stumbled across two prescription bottles, and ask him if he would like to keep them high up in the medicine cabinet (or better yet, dispose of them responsibly, because they are expired).
Ask, "Is there anything about your health that I should know about?" and then leave it alone.
Dear Amy: I have a longtime friend, "Rebecca." Every summer she comes back home to visit friends and family and stays at my house.
This recent visit was for six days. She lounged around, ate meals, and barely lifted a finger. She starts drinking wine at around 2 p.m. each day and drinks until bedtime. On the last day, she presented me with a list of complaints about what didn't suit her during her free bed and breakfast, lunch, and dinner stay. She was picky about the food, could hear my son and friends at night, and had no TV in her room.
She told me we needed to be more considerate of our houseguest.
I told her I won't expect her to want to stay here again next year, being that conditions were so horrible.
Please advise.
-- Used
Dear Used: You've gone part-way in putting "Rebecca" on notice. However, you've done so from a defensive posture.
What you should do now is to say -- not that she won't want to stay with you, but that YOU don't want her to stay with you: "Your stays at our house have started to have a negative effect on our friendship. You'll need to find somewhere else to stay during your visits home."
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