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"Let Yourself Feel Your Feelings"

Getting rejected by a manager you personally reject is not the time to be a brave little soldier. Instead, pry open that stiff upper lip and "tell a friend, perhaps, and let that person buy you a drink and listen to your story."

Excellent advice. My only suggestion is to not limit yourself to one friend. Tell five friends, and let them buy you five drinks. Make sure the kind of drinks come with colorful little paper parasols at the end of toothpicks. You can stick them into a voodoo doll of your manager.

"Assess your Own Request for a Promotion"

Our author suggests you "look at the situation from an outsider's point of view."

Unbelievable as it may seem, your manager may have been right to deny you the promotion, especially "if you asked in an entitled way."


Putting aside the fact that you are entitled to squeeze every undeserved dollar you can get from the company, it may make sense, upon reflection, to review your technique. Telling your manager that unless you get an immediate promotion you will hold your breath until your face turns red and you die a horrible death is dramatic. It's also dangerous. Remember -- dead employees get roses, not raises.

"Be Professional at Work"

If you can stifle your rage at being refused, Burry believes "your graceful response will be appreciated at work." Your desire "to complain, cry or whine" should be limited to friends and family. I disagree. The place to be professional is at home. You family will only worry about silly things like being unable to pay the mortgage or not having food on the table. (You know how selfish they are.)

It's at work where you want to double down on your complaining, crying and whining. Be sufficiently annoying -- I know you can do it! -- and even a dumbhead like your manager will finally realize that the only way to get rid of you is to promote you.


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