Ask Amy: Son’s apology demand creates distance
Your daughter has created an alternate reality for herself and her children where your son does not exist. She has decided to erase him.
And you have gone along with this. Not a parent’s proudest moment.
I think you should let your daughter know that you are genuinely sorry that this is so hard for her, but that her choice has caused you a lot of heartache, and that you can’t erase one child in order to admit another.
Dear Amy: “Unsure” wrote to you that they had discovered they were half-siblings with a brother through genetic testing. The mother then confirmed they had been conceived through IVF.
You questioned whether they were actually half-siblings, but genetic testing on one person would reveal DNA relationships with everyone.
– Correction Needed
Dear Needed: Many readers had issues with both the question and my response. My assumption was that the true DNA sibling relationship would only be revealed if the brother also submitted for testing. My apologies for the confusion.
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