Ask Amy: New relationship displaces old friendship
Sharon has always expressed her appreciation for this and usually offers to “pay me back” at some point in the future. I always tell her not to worry about it.
Recently, Sharon learned that she had inherited almost $10,000 after her great-aunt’s death. She has been giddy, talking about all the things she is going to spend the money on. Not one word about compensating me, or about using any of this money to support our household.
This feels like a last straw, and I’m seeking a gut check.
– In the Red
Dear In the Red: When charting your future, you should look to your past.
You and “Sharon” have established a pattern.
If you want more of the same, you should stay in the relationship, but it sounds as if you believe you deserve something better – and I agree.
Dear Amy: “Depressing (but not depressed!) Daughter” wondered how to describe her dying father’s condition to people who asked.
A man in our community had ALS, and his wife came up with what I thought was the best reply.
She always responded, “He’s doing as well as can be expected.”
This phrase works in many situations.
– Terry
Dear Terry: That phrase seems both opaque and polite.
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