Ask Amy: Divorcing dad needs to put son first
Dear Amy: My wife and I are divorcing after 23 years of marriage. I am moving out soon.
We have a 21-year-old son.
I talked with him about it, and while he’s angry, he says he understands.
The problem, however, is that my marriage was bad for a very long time, and I fell in love with another woman.
My wife refers to me as an adulterer. She has said this to my son.
How can I help him understand that I am not an adulterer?
I want to have a great relationship with my son; I never want to leave him, but his mother has somewhat poisoned him.
How do I explain things to him?
– No Longer Lonely in Long Island
Dear No Longer Lonely: In the shorter term, you should focus less attention on justifying or trying to redefine your behavior, and focus more attention on your son.
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