Taking the Kids: On the college tour circuit

Most important, build in some fun time -- a local theatrical production, perhaps. (See what's playing at the Curious Theatre Company in Denver or The Second City in Chicago, which has launched the careers of many comedy stars. Remember, in another year you might not have much time with your college-bound son or daughter.

Check out a local festival, go apple picking or enjoy the fall foliage on a bike ride or hike in New England or Colorado. Northampton, Massachusetts, is home to Smith College and the Five College Consortium (Mt. Holyoke, University of Massachusetts, Amherst and Hampshire Colleges), for example.

If you dare, there are plenty of "Fright Fests" like at Philadelphia'sEastern State Penitentiary Terror Behind the Walls, a massive haunted house inside what was once a real prison, or, in LA, the Haunted Hayride in Griffith Park's Old Zoo.

In Boston, where there are more than 150,000 students at some 35 colleges and universities, have a lobster roll and shop for quirky souvenirs at historic Faneuil Hall Marketplace; Take your pick of world-class museums, including The New England Aquarium (if you have time, head out on a whale watch), the Museum of Fine Arts and the Museum of African American History.

Explore something new together. Looking at Indiana University? Visit one of the two Tibetan Monasteries in Bloomington, Indiana, for a meditation session, overnight stay in authentic Tibetan yurts or an evening chanting at the Tibetan Mongolian Buddhist Cultural Center. Also visit Gaden Khachoe Shing Monastery and eat authentic Tibetan food at Little Tibet.

In Lawrence, Kansas, home of KU, take in a college basketball game at the place where modern college basketball was founded. You can even see a display of the original rules of the game in their museum!

In College Station, Texas, home of Texas A&M University, join the stargazers from the A&M astronomy department at The Stella Hotel. And in Austin, home of the University of Texas, you have to eat barbecue and hear some music in what locals call The Live Music Capital of the World

In New York, get out of Manhattan and explore oh-so-hip Brooklyn or Queens where you'll find amazing ethnic eats.

Of course, as with any trip with kids -- especially teens -- get them to weigh in on what they'd like to do when they aren't touring campuses. Here's your chance to tailor activities to one child -- no compromises necessary -- with no siblings around. No arguing over where to eat dinner! How often does that happen?

If you are lucky, you might even have a meaningful conversation or two in the car.

As for my daughter, she loved going to college in Colorado -- so much so that her younger sister followed her there.

Just keep telling yourself it will all work out in the end. The really hard part comes later -- paying for it.

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