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Ask Mr. Dad: The art of baby spacing

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Dear Mr. Dad: Our baby is only three months old, but I'm already craving another one! My husband is worried that it might be too much too soon. Do you recommend having two babies this close together? What are the advantages and disadvantages?

A: Unfortunately, there's no right answer, so I can't give you a strong recommendation either way. A ...Read more

Ask Mr. Dad: Taming chaos

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Dear Mr. Dad: Help! I have a 14-year-old high-school freshman whose room looks like the aftermath of a hurricane. But as unpleasant as that is, it's not what I'm writing about. The real issue is that she is completely disorganized and can't keep track of her homework, school assignments, and project due dates. Up through middle school, she was ...Read more

Ask Mr. Dad: Whose homework is it, anyway

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Dear Mr. Dad: I pride myself on being a very hands-on mom -- I drive my kids to all their events, am active in the PTO, and, yes, I often sit with my kids (who just started 4th and 6th grade) while they do their homework. Sometimes I get a little impatient and I give them an answer or two. School's only been in session two weeks, but I can see ...Read more

Ask Mr. Dad: Free speech for me … but not for thee

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Dear Mr. Dad: In one of your columns a while ago, you talked about free speech and the importance of listening to others. I've been having a lot of disagreements lately with my daughter, a college freshman, who demands that I listen respectfully to everything she says, but interrupts and completely dismisses anything I say that she disagrees ...Read more

Ask Mr. Dad: Dogs and babies: Good match or bad?

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Dear Mr. Dad: My wife is due to give birth in about two months and we're worried about our dog, a 120-pound Bernese mountain dog who's less of a pet and more a part of the family. We keep hearing that it's dangerous to have a giant dog around a newborn and that we should start looking for a new home for him. Is it? And is there some way to ...Read more

Ask Mr. Dad: 'Dads in the delivery room' conversation continues

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Dear readers: My recent column addressing a question from an expectant father who was afraid to be in the delivery room because of "all the blood" generated a lot of response from readers. Here are a few of them, along with my response.

AE wrote: "All the blood? Really? I am a former NICU nurse and besides my own personal delivery experience, I...Read more

Ex-etiquette: What's in a name?

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Q. My ex-wife was ordered to return to her maiden name after our divorce. She does sometimes. She continues to use my last name when applying for rental property (she was evicted). She was also admitted to the hospital and used my last name. Plus, she has remarried and tries using all three last names when trying to obtain credit. This can't ...Read more

Ask Mr. Dad: When 'good enough' is plenty

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Dear Mr. Dad: I'm in the process of getting a divorce and everyone's telling me about how horrible divorce is for kids. Apparently, they have all sorts of behavioral problems, do worse in school, abuse drugs, are depressed and anxious, and on and on. I'm petrified and worried that no matter what I do, my kids are doomed. I want to be an amazing ...Read more

Ex-etiquette: Wife judges husband who does chores for his ex

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Q: I recently married to a man who has a daughter. His ex recently broke up with her long term partner and now has my hubby going over to do chores, like moving sofas or fixing the hot water heater. This ticks me off because not only does this woman rape us financially every month, but she intimidates my husband. He thinks that if he doesn't do ...Read more

Ex-etiquette: After divorce, some relationships often continue

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Q: My husband has two children with his ex. My mother-in-law remains good friends with their mother even though she has been divorced from my husband for five years. They evidently got very close both during the marriage -- my mother-in-law had only boys and both her parents have passed away. Now the ex is getting remarried and she has asked my ...Read more

Ex-etiquette: Wife left in car, fuming

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Q: My husband and his ex share their child every other week. They have always had boundary issues, but this last incident takes the cake. Right before my husband dropped off their son his mother called to say she needed to talk. We all get in the car and drive the 20 minutes to her home. My husband walks his son to the door and leaves me in the ...Read more

Ex-etiquette: Bonusparent should consult maid of honor or bride for wardrobe help

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Q. I am the second wife of the father of a bride who is getting married in October. We are now divorced as well, but I got very close to the bride while I was married to her father, so I have been invited to the wedding. I know not to wear the same color as the bridal party and there's a dinner reception and cocktails after, so how formal do I ...Read more

Ask Mr. Dad: Welcome to the sandwich generation

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Dear Mr. Dad: My elderly father can't take care of himself any longer and has just moved in with us. My four-year old is complaining that I'm spending more time with my dad than with her, and my 16-year old is complaining about all the extra responsibilities he's had to take on. And, of course, my husband is feeling neglected too. I think I'm ...Read more

Ex-etiquette: Support wife's wishes on how to deal with ex's terminal illness

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Q. My wife has been divorced from her children's father for almost 20 years. He has never remarried. We have been married for 10. They have three children together, all adults with children of their own. Although I am a proponent of us all spending the holidays together for the sake of the grandkids, we do not socialize on a regular basis.

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Ask Mr. Dad: Water: The miracle cure from your tap

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Dear Mr. Dad: This summer is shaping up to be a hot one and I'm concerned that my wife and kids (and probably myself) aren't drinking enough water. How much should we be drinking and why is it so important (I need facts to convince the skeptics in the family)?

A: You've probably heard that we should drink eight 8-ounce glasses of water every ...Read more

Ask Mr. Dad: No idea what to do … or why to be involved

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Dear Mr. Dad: My wife is pregnant and I'm not sure I'm cut out to be a father. My wife and I have been talking and it's clear that she has high expectations. She wants me to be as involved as she is, playing with the baby, reading to it, feeding, changing, and everything else. The problem is that I'm just not interested in being that involved --...Read more

Ex-etiquette: Sex-talking ex

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Q: My husband has been divorced from his first wife for 35 years. He has adult children and grandchildren. His ex visits for months at a time, which is great for the grandkids, but when she's here, she's far too familiar, talking about how good their sex life was and how she was the one to leave. It makes me so uncomfortable I don't want to go ...Read more

Ex-etiquette: Fiancé wants 'his' son at wedding

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Q: I am pregnant with my first child. I will soon be married to a guy who was with a woman for 7 years. His "son" is 6 and my fiance wants this kid to come to our wedding ceremony. I said no. He was never married to his mother and to continue to be involved on that level will just complicate our life. This is our day! My fiance is furious and ...Read more


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