Parents

/

Home & Leisure

Marc Bruxelle/Dreamstime/TNS

Ex-etiquette: If you put your child first, there's a compromise somewhere

Parents / Family Living /

Q. Having a daughter was not planned. My child’s father and I were in college and not as careful as we should have been. Being so young, we discussed very little prior to having our child and when we broke up, agreed on very little. She is now 6 and we have both changed substantially. We both now go to church and want to instill what we ...Read more

Dreamstime/Dreamstime/TNS

Ex-etiquette: Laying the groundwork for success

Parents / Family Living /

Q. My daughter is 13. Her father has remarried a woman who has two boys, ages 14 and 16. Both adults work and once the kids get off school, all three are left alone in the home until the adults return. I do not believe teens of the opposite sex should be left alone unsupervised. I’m concerned about this, and I think my daughter is also, mainly...Read more

Dreamstime/Dreamstime/TNS

Ex-etiquette: What to do when a co-parent won't cooperate

Parents / Family Living /

Q. It’s a new year and I’d really like to put my best foot forward with my co-parent. This Christmas, my holiday backed up to her weekend and we had to return my son to her the day after Christmas just to sleep, only to return to my home in the morning. To eliminate all the back-and-forth, I proposed he stay with me and that we lengthen the ...Read more

Dreamstime/Dreamstime/TNS

Ask Mr. Dad: Why it's important to tell your kids the story of your life

Parents / Family Living /

Dear Mr. Dad: My mother passed away several years ago and my father suffers from dementia. They were great parents and are definitely role models for me as I father my own children (ages 7, 12 and 16). The problem is when my kids ask me questions about their grandparents, I barely have any answers. Although both of my parents were very involved ...Read more

Dreamstime/Dreamstime/TNS

Ex-etiquette: Kids' resilience after divorce varies greatly

Parents / Family Living /

Q. My husband and I do not get along and I’m wondering, if we divorce, will it really screw up the kids, or is that just something mental health professionals tell us? Aren’t kids naturally resilient? What’s good ex-etiquette?

A. Kids face all sorts of trials as they grow and they may be affected by all sorts of things, but you can bet ...Read more

Dreamstime/Dreamstime/TNS

Ex-etiquette: Instead of trying to make everyone happy with a holiday visit, consider sticking to Zoom

Parents / Family Living /

Q. My parents have been divorced for 10 years. They get along but live in different states. I thought when I got older, I wouldn’t have to deal with where I would spend Christmas, but I do. Now, I’m getting married, and not only do I have my two parents' homes to cope with, I have my fiance’s parents, who are also divorced. Plus, married ...Read more

Dreamstime/Dreamstime/TNS

Ex-etiquette: Make boundaries clear to new partner

Parents / Family Living /

Q. My ex and I have been divorced for almost 10 years. We are friends, that’s it. We share children and we have always worked together on that basis.

Not long after the breakup, I started dating someone else. We started off as friends, and I probably confided too much about my feelings for my ex — I told my friend my ex was the love of my ...Read more

Dreamstime/Dreamstime/TNS

Ex-etiquette: Sick child comes first

Parents / Family Living /

Q. The guy I have been dating for a year just told me that his ex and their daughter are moving back in with him. Evidently, his daughter is very sick, and his ex can’t take care of her by herself, so he suggested they move back in with him. We do not live together, but we were talking about it after the first of the year. Now those plans are ...Read more

Dreamstime/Dreamstime/TNS

Ex-etiquette: Stop comparing

Parents / Family Living /

Q. The holidays are coming up and it's tradition that we all congregate at my partner’s parents’ home. They always invite his ex-wife. She never stays long, just long enough to say hi to his parents and their kids, but when she walks in, it’s like the prodigal daughter returned. It’s so obvious they prefer her, it makes me feel invisible...Read more

Dreamstime/TNS

Ask Mr. Dad: Why does my baby hate me?

Parents / Family Living /

Dear Mr. Dad: Since my daughter was born two months ago, I’ve become completely convinced that she hates me. She seems quite happy when she’s with my wife, but when I try to hold her, she gets upset and cries. Thinking that maybe she just needs more time to get used to me, I’ve backed off a little. But that hasn’t done the trick. I’m ...Read more

Dreamstime/Dreamstime/TNS

Ex-etiquette: Accept help and don't badmouth father in front of kids

Parents / Family Living /

Q. My kids are always looking for excuses to get their dad and me together. Last time, because my car broke down, they thought it was just fine for all of us to drive 50 miles together to watch our daughter’s violin recital. I think it’s weird. I’d rather stay home than drive with their dad ANYWHERE and I told them so. I think exes are ...Read more

Dreamstime/Dreamstime/TNS

Ex-etiquette: What to do when a bonusfamily wants to get together but can't

Parents / Family Living /

Q. Over the years, my yours, mine and ours bonusfamily blended into a peaceful menagerie. It was great around the holidays; all the kids, the exes, extended family on either side congregated at our home. No fights or arguments, we all accepted that this is the way life had played out and we tried to make it easy on the kids. Now that the kids ...Read more

Dreamstime/Dreamstime/TNS

Ex-etiquette: Put the kids first and go to co-parenting counseling

Parents / Family Living /

Q. My ex and I have been split up for two years. He had an affair and left. He’s living with her and seems happy, but that’s not the real issue. We have four children, all 18 and older. I know we must co-parent, but his take on things that have happened concerning the kids is so different than mine, it’s obvious he’s lying. When I ...Read more

Dreamstime/Dreamstime/TNS

Ex-etiquette: You'll know when it's the right time to remarry

Parents / Family Living /

Q. Five years ago my wife passed away suddenly of a heart attack at age 43. I have since met a wonderful woman and we have been seeing each other for three years. My daughter, 14, gets along with her and her 11-year-old daughter very well. We are considering marriage, but within the last year my daughter has changed. She has become self-centered...Read more

Tero Vesalainen/Dreamstime/TNS

Ex-etiquette: Talk to, not at, ex about daughter's Halloween costume

Parents / Family Living /

Q. My 8-year-old daughter, Jesse, wants to be a sexy witch for Halloween. Her mother thinks it’s perfectly fine, but I don’t want my daughter walking the streets of the neighborhood looking like that. (We live about a mile from each other.) Her mother was offended when I said the costume looks like a hooker — probably not the right way to ...Read more

 

Comics

Chip Bok Darrin Bell 1 and Done Cathy Gary Markstein Taylor Jones