Q.I have a real problem with my bonus daughter’s lying. I overhear her telling her mother how she wants to go home when she is with us, but her father won’t let her. She never tells us she wants to go home. On the contrary, she tells us how much she loves being with us. I think she’s playing her parents and it’s causing a big problem ...Read more
Dear Mr. Dad: Our daughter is going away to college. On one hand, I'm thrilled that she's becoming so independent. But we've always been very close and I'm worried that our relationship will suffer. Will it?
A: Well, the day you've hoped for and dreaded is finally here. Your child is going to move out. Some researchers have called this the ...Read more
I was married for five years and had a son. We divorced a year ago, but started dating – again. She ended up pregnant — again. I asked for a DNA test prior to paying child support. They tested both kids and neither is mine. I’m done with their mother and no longer want anything to do with either of these children, but I’m feeling a ...Read more
Q. I live a very comfortable life, married to an absolutely great guy and all the ex’s — his and mine — get along just fine. The problem is every time my husband’s ex’s new husband is not around, she starts with the "remember the good old days" stories. She doesn’t do it if her husband is present. This Christmas her husband had to ...Read more
Q. My husband’s ex asked me what we bought their son for Christmas. Because he and his dad love baseball, I told her we bought him a jersey and tickets to a game when their team comes into town. She has remarried and celebrates Hanukkah with her new husband and wanted her son to participate in the first night. We thought that was great. ...Read more
Q. The woman I’m considering marrying has never had children. I have two, ages 6 and 7. They are scheduled to spend the holiday with me this year, but my girlfriend wants me to trade the holiday with their mother and go skiing with her. I refused and it started a huge fight. She says our relationship is not my priority and doesn’t understand...Read more
Q. My husband's ex-wife asked if he wants to go in half on an expensive gift for their son for Christmas.
Should she and her husband buy the son gifts and my husband and I buy their son gifts?
We have only been married a very short while and I seem to be having questions about how normal the relationship between them is.
A. The time to be ...Read more
Q. I lost my Thanksgiving this year and I'm afraid I'm going to lose my time over Christmas break, as well. My son and daughter, age 5 and 7, were scheduled to be with me, but because my mother lives with me and the state suggestion is to limit visitors over the holidays, their mom and I decided that they should stay with her this year. I feel ...Read more
Dear Mr. Dad: My employer recently went out of business because of COVID, but my wife, who was staying at home with our toddler, was able to get a job. That means that I'm going to be the at-home parent. What am I in for?
A: You're in for a lot of fun — and a lot of challenges.
There are more than 2 million stay-at-home dads in the U.S. ...Read more
Q. Is it acceptable to bring my new partner's gifts for my children into my ex's home after being asked not to?
A. It's not acceptable to bring ANYTHING to anyone's home if they have asked you not to; why would you think a co-parent is any exception? Your attitude demonstrates blatant disrespect and is an indicator that you may want to ...Read more
Q. My ex's husband just reached out to invite me to join them for Thanksgiving dinner. We have been divorced for six years and have had our ups and downs. It's mostly up now. They have been married for three and a half years and have recently added a baby. The kids are with them this year, they know I am alone, and I think it's their way of ...Read more
Q. My children's mother and I are breaking up. We are trying to figure out what's best for our two young children — should they both go back and forth between our homes or one live with each of us? How do we decide? What's good ex-etiquette?
A. Good ex-etiquette is that you continue to look for ways to positively interact with their other ...Read more
Q. All I want is to be part of my daughter's life 50/50, but every time we go to court they just ask her stepmom, who is her attorney, and my ex-spouse, and both say no, so nothing different happens. What's good ex-etiquette?
A. As clarification for my readers who may not be familiar with the terminology, 50/50 refers to equal custody of your ...Read more
Q. My ex insists on some sort of Halloween trick-or-treating with the kids, but with COVID looming I think we must be cautious. That, and the fact that we never really designated who the kids should be with on Halloween, and they are scheduled to be with me on the 31st. We are now butting heads and normally, I would find a way for them to see ...Read more