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Ask Mr. Dad: Chores? What chores?

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Dear Mr. Dad: My husband and I are always reminding our tweens (ages 9 and 12) about their chores. They know exactly what they're supposed to be doing, but that doesn't keep them from "forgetting" -- even if it's something they've done three times a week for the last six months. We've discussed this with some of our friends who have kids about ...Read more

Ex-etiquette: Can there be a 'just us' holiday time?

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Q: I've been reading your column for some time. It seems you have been there and always point out things I don't see, so I thought I would ask about my situation. I live around the corner from my husband's ex. They co-parented their two kids -- a week with each parent -- before I got here and following your advice, I just got with the program. I...Read more

Ask Mr. Dad: Breastfeeding: Can there be too much of a good thing?

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Dear Mr. Dad: Our son just turned two and although he's eating plenty of "real" food, I still breastfeed him. My husband thinks it's a bit odd, but several friends and even some coworkers are shocked. Is there a specific age at which I should stop breastfeeding? Am I doing damage by breastfeeding a toddler?

A: Let's start with some background. ...Read more

Ex-etiquette: Extramarital affairs have far-reaching affects

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Q: My wife and I recently broke up after 18 years of marriage. It was because I have found someone new and probably didn't handle things as I should, but now my family has broken into factions and everyone is upset and taking sides. I'm at a loss as to what to do. What's good ex-etiquette?

A: Rarely do people who have affairs stop to consider ...Read more

Ex-etiquette: From a child's perspective

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Q: For the past six months my kids have come home from their mother's house and tell me that she fights with her boyfriend all the time. The things they tell me they say are very insulting and since my kids are old enough to know, 10 and 12, I know it must be true. Now they are telling me that they don't want to go back. Since we trade off every...Read more

Ask Mr. Dad: Sorry, I just don't believe you

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Dear Mr. Dad, My 12-year-old daughter is a liar. I wish it weren't true, but just about everything that comes out of her mouth is a lie. If she tells me she's texting a girl from school, it's probably a boy. If I ask whether she's cleaned her room, she'll look me straight in the eye and tell me, "Yes," even though I know (and she knows I know) ...Read more

Ask Mr. Dad: The art of baby spacing

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Dear Mr. Dad: Our baby is only three months old, but I'm already craving another one! My husband is worried that it might be too much too soon. Do you recommend having two babies this close together? What are the advantages and disadvantages?

A: Unfortunately, there's no right answer, so I can't give you a strong recommendation either way. A ...Read more

Ask Mr. Dad: Taming chaos

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Dear Mr. Dad: Help! I have a 14-year-old high-school freshman whose room looks like the aftermath of a hurricane. But as unpleasant as that is, it's not what I'm writing about. The real issue is that she is completely disorganized and can't keep track of her homework, school assignments, and project due dates. Up through middle school, she was ...Read more

Ask Mr. Dad: Whose homework is it, anyway

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Dear Mr. Dad: I pride myself on being a very hands-on mom -- I drive my kids to all their events, am active in the PTO, and, yes, I often sit with my kids (who just started 4th and 6th grade) while they do their homework. Sometimes I get a little impatient and I give them an answer or two. School's only been in session two weeks, but I can see ...Read more

Ask Mr. Dad: Free speech for me … but not for thee

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Dear Mr. Dad: In one of your columns a while ago, you talked about free speech and the importance of listening to others. I've been having a lot of disagreements lately with my daughter, a college freshman, who demands that I listen respectfully to everything she says, but interrupts and completely dismisses anything I say that she disagrees ...Read more

Ask Mr. Dad: Dogs and babies: Good match or bad?

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Dear Mr. Dad: My wife is due to give birth in about two months and we're worried about our dog, a 120-pound Bernese mountain dog who's less of a pet and more a part of the family. We keep hearing that it's dangerous to have a giant dog around a newborn and that we should start looking for a new home for him. Is it? And is there some way to ...Read more

Ask Mr. Dad: 'Dads in the delivery room' conversation continues

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Dear readers: My recent column addressing a question from an expectant father who was afraid to be in the delivery room because of "all the blood" generated a lot of response from readers. Here are a few of them, along with my response.

AE wrote: "All the blood? Really? I am a former NICU nurse and besides my own personal delivery experience, I...Read more

Ex-etiquette: What's in a name?

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Q. My ex-wife was ordered to return to her maiden name after our divorce. She does sometimes. She continues to use my last name when applying for rental property (she was evicted). She was also admitted to the hospital and used my last name. Plus, she has remarried and tries using all three last names when trying to obtain credit. This can't ...Read more

Ask Mr. Dad: When 'good enough' is plenty

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Dear Mr. Dad: I'm in the process of getting a divorce and everyone's telling me about how horrible divorce is for kids. Apparently, they have all sorts of behavioral problems, do worse in school, abuse drugs, are depressed and anxious, and on and on. I'm petrified and worried that no matter what I do, my kids are doomed. I want to be an amazing ...Read more

Ex-etiquette: Wife judges husband who does chores for his ex

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Q: I recently married to a man who has a daughter. His ex recently broke up with her long term partner and now has my hubby going over to do chores, like moving sofas or fixing the hot water heater. This ticks me off because not only does this woman rape us financially every month, but she intimidates my husband. He thinks that if he doesn't do ...Read more

Ex-etiquette: After divorce, some relationships often continue

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Q: My husband has two children with his ex. My mother-in-law remains good friends with their mother even though she has been divorced from my husband for five years. They evidently got very close both during the marriage -- my mother-in-law had only boys and both her parents have passed away. Now the ex is getting remarried and she has asked my ...Read more

Ex-etiquette: Wife left in car, fuming

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Q: My husband and his ex share their child every other week. They have always had boundary issues, but this last incident takes the cake. Right before my husband dropped off their son his mother called to say she needed to talk. We all get in the car and drive the 20 minutes to her home. My husband walks his son to the door and leaves me in the ...Read more


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