Q. I have been divorced from my children’s father for 10 years. He cheated and even though we explored therapy, he kept cheating, and I was done. My kids were all adults and knew what was going on, understood why I left, but always wished I stayed. Their family life has never been the same. My ex and I now get along really well. Whenever there...Read more
Q. My husband and I have been married for three years. He and I both had sons about the same age from a previous marriage and now we have a daughter who is almost 2. His son is quite a handful. We see him every other weekend for a night or two. He doesn’t feel like part of our family, and I often forget to include him in casual conversation. ...Read more
COLORADO SPRINGS, Colo. — Robert Lewis Dear Jr.'s case will be addressed in federal court at the end of the month in another step toward assessing his ability to stand trial, Fourth Judicial District Chief Judge William Bain said Friday.
In a two-day hearing beginning Aug. 30, a judge will determine whether Dear, who claimed responsibility ...Read more
Q. My ex’s partner just moved in with my ex. She’s not why we broke up, but they are just so happy it makes me cringe. We share custody of our 6-year-old son. I don’t want her disciplining my son! What’s good ex-etiquette?
A. You can guess this is a pretty common problem. Everyone gets very territorial when it comes to their children, ...Read more
Q. My husband talks too much to his ex. Every time there is the slightest issue with the kids, they are on the phone chatting it up. It drives me crazy. Exes simply shouldn’t talk this much. All my friends agree with me and say it’s unnatural. He said I should write you and tell you my concerns, so I am. You can’t possibly condone all this...Read more
EL CENTRO, Calif. — On a recent Monday afternoon, all the abortion appointments at Planned Parenthood-Imperial Valley Health Center were already booked up for the week.
Vivian Perez, an office manager at the center, had already clocked in a 12-hour day, but she remained in the office tinkering with the schedule. She’d received a desperate ...Read more
Q. How much am I required to tell my co-parent? My teenage daughter has confided some very private things to me and have asked me not to tell her father. I know she prefers our home and I want to keep it that way. I’m afraid if I say something, she will feel as if I have betrayed her trust, never tell me things again and will then want to live...Read more
Q. The pandemic affected my income and although I can still afford my child support, it makes me furious that my ex is using it for her rent and a car instead of things for the kids. I give my children’s mother thousands of dollars a month and I pick up my oldest son in holey jeans and a faded sweatshirt. How do I get her to do what’s right?...Read more
Q. My ex is always making plans for our child on my time, particularly when there is a holiday that requires some creativity to navigate. He looks for loopholes in the custody order to keep our son longer than he is supposed to. When I tell him to bring our son home, he gets angry and says, “He IS home!,” then calls law enforcement, hoping ...Read more
Q. My father and mother broke up when I when I was 10, and a few years later my mom married my bonusdad. He is truly a bonus to my life and has been there for me through everything, just as my father has. I’m getting married next month and I'm struggling with the same problem so many face. Who walks me down the aisle? I would like to honor ...Read more
Q. My ex and I had an amicable split. After a year or so, we put together a parenting plan that worked, but we left off Father’s Day and Mother’s Day. That means our son may be scheduled to spend Father’s Day with me and visa versa. It doesn’t happen all the time, but this year, it did. In the interest of “good ex-etiquette” I ...Read more
Q. My ex has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder. It makes it very difficult to co-parent. Will the courts grant me full custody when the other parent has a diagnosis like that? What’s good ex-etiquette?
A. Lots of people struggle with mental illness. If a parent is struggling and there is a question of primary custody, it’s the parent’s...Read more
Dear Mr. Dad: My parents divorced when I was a teen, and I had a difficult relationship with my alcoholic father, which impacted my self-worth and adult relationships for years. Now, as a stepfather, I see my young-adult stepson dealing with similar issues—especially feelings of disappointment and anger—around his deceased birth father, who ...Read more
Q. My wife and I have been married for 6 months. I’m very close to my ex—she’s the mother of our three children and the kids go back and forth between our homes. My wife was going through my phone and found some texts with my ex that she thought were too flirty and went ballistic. She said I’m too close to my ex and now really hates ...Read more
Q. I got pregnant right out of high school. My son’s father was equally as young and did not want to take on the responsibility. He enlisted in the army, and I have not seen him in nine years. I married my husband when my son was almost 2 and my husband has raised our son as his own. We also have two other boys. My ex was evidently surfing ...Read more
Q. My child’s mother and I hooked up at a party our last year of college. We were never officially together, although we tried to be once she found out she was pregnant. We are from different cultures and do not see eye to eye about how to raise our son. I am stricter and want my son to follow my traditions, but his mother does not support ...Read more