Q. My 13-year-old son has been telling me he does not want to go back to his mother's for about three months now. He wouldn’t tell me why, but when he finally opened up, I have to admit, I was really surprised. He said that she badmouths me so much, he just doesn’t want to be there anymore. If I mention this to his mother, she will never ...Read more
Q. I feel stupid saying, “Breaking up is hard to do,” but it is! My kids come home from their dad’s, and it seems like nothing is good enough. He has more TV channels. He has a bigger house. He has a swimming pool. I’m working as hard as I can to make things nice for the kids, but it seems everything at their dad’s is better. He knows ...Read more
Q. My grandmother died eight months ago after a very long illness. She was the rock of our family, and my grandfather was her caregiver. She’s been gone eight months, now. My grandfather has recently started to date a woman he appears to enjoy, but I’m having a hard time with it. I am 22 years old, and I know I should be more accepting, but ...Read more
Q.I have two kids. They live with me half the time and with their mother half the time. I have read your books and although it sounds good to get along with your ex, personally, I just don’t think it’s normal. When you break up, you break up. You’re not supposed to get along with an ex. Kids or not.
A.Well, you know I’m going to take ...Read more
Q. My wife and I have been married for seven months and she is having a real problem with the transition. This was complicated by the fact that yesterday, two hours after the kid exchange, my wife and I are in bed and my ex is pounding on the front door because my kid left something behind. My wife is furious and will barely talk to me. There ...Read more
Q. My ex’s new girlfriend is simply trying too hard and it’s really upsetting me. I can see she wants us all to get along. I can see she loves my kids. I’m not intimidated by any of it. What does bother me is that she is doing the special things I have always done with my kids and it hurts my feelings. That is our time. I feel stupid ...Read more
Q. I have been divorced from my children’s father for 10 years. He cheated and even though we explored therapy, he kept cheating, and I was done. My kids were all adults and knew what was going on, understood why I left, but always wished I stayed. Their family life has never been the same. My ex and I now get along really well. Whenever there...Read more
Q. My husband and I have been married for three years. He and I both had sons about the same age from a previous marriage and now we have a daughter who is almost 2. His son is quite a handful. We see him every other weekend for a night or two. He doesn’t feel like part of our family, and I often forget to include him in casual conversation. ...Read more
COLORADO SPRINGS, Colo. — Robert Lewis Dear Jr.'s case will be addressed in federal court at the end of the month in another step toward assessing his ability to stand trial, Fourth Judicial District Chief Judge William Bain said Friday.
In a two-day hearing beginning Aug. 30, a judge will determine whether Dear, who claimed responsibility ...Read more
Q. My ex’s partner just moved in with my ex. She’s not why we broke up, but they are just so happy it makes me cringe. We share custody of our 6-year-old son. I don’t want her disciplining my son! What’s good ex-etiquette?
A. You can guess this is a pretty common problem. Everyone gets very territorial when it comes to their children, ...Read more
Q. My husband talks too much to his ex. Every time there is the slightest issue with the kids, they are on the phone chatting it up. It drives me crazy. Exes simply shouldn’t talk this much. All my friends agree with me and say it’s unnatural. He said I should write you and tell you my concerns, so I am. You can’t possibly condone all this...Read more
EL CENTRO, Calif. — On a recent Monday afternoon, all the abortion appointments at Planned Parenthood-Imperial Valley Health Center were already booked up for the week.
Vivian Perez, an office manager at the center, had already clocked in a 12-hour day, but she remained in the office tinkering with the schedule. She’d received a desperate ...Read more
Q. How much am I required to tell my co-parent? My teenage daughter has confided some very private things to me and have asked me not to tell her father. I know she prefers our home and I want to keep it that way. I’m afraid if I say something, she will feel as if I have betrayed her trust, never tell me things again and will then want to live...Read more
Q. The pandemic affected my income and although I can still afford my child support, it makes me furious that my ex is using it for her rent and a car instead of things for the kids. I give my children’s mother thousands of dollars a month and I pick up my oldest son in holey jeans and a faded sweatshirt. How do I get her to do what’s right?...Read more
Q. My ex is always making plans for our child on my time, particularly when there is a holiday that requires some creativity to navigate. He looks for loopholes in the custody order to keep our son longer than he is supposed to. When I tell him to bring our son home, he gets angry and says, “He IS home!,” then calls law enforcement, hoping ...Read more