Q. I'm a regular reader of your column and most of the time I find your suggestions helpful, but I did not find your answer last week to a woman with an uncooperative ex of any benefit. Basically, you just told her to call a meeting and work it out. Her point was she didn't get along with her ex. How can you expect exes who don't get along to co...Read more
Dear Mr. Dad: Almost exactly a year ago, my husband and I sent our last child off to college. We were thrilled. Our house is paid off and we'd just started thinking about selling it and traveling around the country and the world. Then COVID hit and everything changed. Our youngest's college closed and she had to come home. Then, our oldest lost ...Read more
Q. My ex and I do not agree on much. Our children go back and forth between our homes and will return to school next week. They will go to school Tuesday and Friday. The rest is online learning. Tuesday is my day, but Fridays alternate and he will not take any responsibility to get them to school. He said he will just drop them off and I can ...Read more
Q. I have recently moved in with a man who has three children. We plan to marry but have not set a date. Although I am 26, this is my first really serious relationship. I always want to feel like my partner's first priority, but I question his loyalty to me. He's constantly talking to his ex and will even cancel dates if his children call on him...Read more
Q. Today when I came home from work, I walked into my bonusdaughter and daughter having a serious conversation. They are both 15 and have developed a great friendship. My bonusdaughter was very upset. Evidently, she got in a fight with her mother, but she didn't feel comfortable talking to me about it. She did, however, confide in my daughter. ...Read more
Dear Mr. Dad: My husband and I have two sons. Our oldest is 4 and the youngest is 3 months old. The problem is that the older one is crazy jealous of the baby. We bought a bunch of books on how to prepare a child to be a big brother and everything seemed to be OK -- until about two weeks after the baby arrived. Now, our oldest is angry all the ...Read more
Q. My wife's ex-husband tells the kids, ages 6 and 7, that the reason he and their mother broke up is because I stole her away. He said I made him lose his job and he has nothing because of me. He is an alcoholic. My wife left him because he was abusive and passed out on the couch each night. He lost his job because he got drunk on his lunch ...Read more
Q. My husband has two boys, 6 and 8. The 6-year-old has angry outbursts and it's suspected he has Asperger's syndrome. We've been married for about a year. Normally he sees his kids each Wednesday overnight and every other weekend, but with this virus, his ex and he decided that the kids should live with each parent every other week to cut down ...Read more
Q. I moved into the same home my boyfriend and his ex lived in for five years. The goal was to live together for a couple of months while we were finding a home to buy. He's up for a promotion, decided it was too stressful to move at this moment and asked if we could stay put for another year. I said OK, but I'm sorry I did. This house is a ...Read more
Q. My grandson is 10 years old. His father, who lives with me, and his mother split his time equally. He goes back and forth every three or four days. When he's here, he sleeps in his own room and does fine. He sleeps with his mother in her bed when he's with her, even though he has his own room at her house. I just don't think it's good for my ...Read more
Q. My children's mother and I split up about two years ago. We co-parent well, but I have recently met someone and it looks like it's getting serious. I want to introduce her to my kids, but we are all on lockdown with this virus and I'm wondering if I should hold off for a while. What's good ex-etiquette?
A. I think your instinct to hold off ...Read more
Q. Is it OK for the other parent to listen in on my phone calls with our child? My daughter can go to her room for privacy at my house, but when she is with her other parent she says the her other parent comes in to listen and it makes her feel uncomfortable, but she's too scared to ask for her privacy. It's uncomfortable for me as well. What's ...Read more
Dear Mr. Dad: I'm a brand new dad and have never been more thrilled in my life. I want to be involved but I never babysat, am the first among my siblings and friends to have a child, and I have no clue what I'm supposed to do with my perfect new daughter. Got any suggestions?
A: Congrats on the new baby. From your level of enthusiasm, it's ...Read more