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Ex-etiquette: Stop comparing

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Q. The holidays are coming up and it's tradition that we all congregate at my partner’s parents’ home. They always invite his ex-wife. She never stays long, just long enough to say hi to his parents and their kids, but when she walks in, it’s like the prodigal daughter returned. It’s so obvious they prefer her, it makes me feel invisible...Read more

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Ask Mr. Dad: Why does my baby hate me?

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Dear Mr. Dad: Since my daughter was born two months ago, I’ve become completely convinced that she hates me. She seems quite happy when she’s with my wife, but when I try to hold her, she gets upset and cries. Thinking that maybe she just needs more time to get used to me, I’ve backed off a little. But that hasn’t done the trick. I’m ...Read more

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Ex-etiquette: Accept help and don't badmouth father in front of kids

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Q. My kids are always looking for excuses to get their dad and me together. Last time, because my car broke down, they thought it was just fine for all of us to drive 50 miles together to watch our daughter’s violin recital. I think it’s weird. I’d rather stay home than drive with their dad ANYWHERE and I told them so. I think exes are ...Read more

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Ex-etiquette: What to do when a bonusfamily wants to get together but can't

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Q. Over the years, my yours, mine and ours bonusfamily blended into a peaceful menagerie. It was great around the holidays; all the kids, the exes, extended family on either side congregated at our home. No fights or arguments, we all accepted that this is the way life had played out and we tried to make it easy on the kids. Now that the kids ...Read more

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Ex-etiquette: Put the kids first and go to co-parenting counseling

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Q. My ex and I have been split up for two years. He had an affair and left. He’s living with her and seems happy, but that’s not the real issue. We have four children, all 18 and older. I know we must co-parent, but his take on things that have happened concerning the kids is so different than mine, it’s obvious he’s lying. When I ...Read more

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Ex-etiquette: You'll know when it's the right time to remarry

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Q. Five years ago my wife passed away suddenly of a heart attack at age 43. I have since met a wonderful woman and we have been seeing each other for three years. My daughter, 14, gets along with her and her 11-year-old daughter very well. We are considering marriage, but within the last year my daughter has changed. She has become self-centered...Read more

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Ex-etiquette: Talk to, not at, ex about daughter's Halloween costume

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Q. My 8-year-old daughter, Jesse, wants to be a sexy witch for Halloween. Her mother thinks it’s perfectly fine, but I don’t want my daughter walking the streets of the neighborhood looking like that. (We live about a mile from each other.) Her mother was offended when I said the costume looks like a hooker — probably not the right way to ...Read more

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Ex-etiquette: Talk to dad about son's mystery bruises

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Q. My 7-year-son continually comes back from his father’s home with bruises on his knees and shins. I have asked my son where they come from, and he doesn’t seem to know. Although his father was quite conscientious when we were together, I’m still very concerned. I think my son may be covering for his father and I’m wondering if I should...Read more

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Ask Mr. Dad: When lying and cheating are good news

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Dear Mr. Dad: I don’t know how to put this nicely, but my 7-year-old son is a liar, a cheater, and a thief. He fibs — usually straight to my face — every chance he gets, and after several recent trips to grocery stores, I found that he’d stolen some small items. What have my wife and I done wrong? And what can we do to stop this before ...Read more

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Ex-etiquette: Grounded from talking to his dad?

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I recently received an email from two co-parents who wrote to me together — a novel approach, I must say. They were looking for direction. They knew they have a problem, they just weren’t sure what to do. They asked, “What’s good ex-etiquette when…”

Parent A: My 14-year-old does something my ex doesn’t like and he’s immediately ...Read more

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Ex-etiquette: Talk to ex about plans for daughters' stays

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Q. My ex moved out nine months ago. He has no furniture in his apartment — nothing but a TV in the living room and a bed in his room. I told him maybe he should take a break and postpone his weekends with our daughters, 6 and 8, until he gets some furniture. He refuses! If I called Child Protective Services, would they intervene? What’s good...Read more

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Ex-etiquette: Stop trying to control parents' relationship with ex

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Q. Why would my ex-wife continue to have a relationship with my in-laws after four years of being divorced? I understand we have kids, but it’s beginning to be troublesome now that I’m in a serious relationship and thinking about getting married again. What’s good ex-etiquette?

A. It sounds like intellectually you understand why she’s ...Read more

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Ex-etiquette: Go to court, but to put a parenting plan in place

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Q. What would family court think of my ex, a mother who prompted our separation (we were never married, but have two children together) and then three months later proceeds to move in with my brother? What’s good ex-etiquette about that?

A. I don’t know the specifics of your case, and I have learned from years of experience to never form an...Read more

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Ex-etiquette: How to stay away from the blame game

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Q. I have a bonus family. My husband has two kids and I have two kids. We’ve added a son three years ago. We have tried your suggestion of a family discussion to air differences, but things seem to spin out of control. What’s good ex-etiquette?

A. Family discussions are great ways to problem-solve, but bonusfamilies must be careful that ...Read more

 

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