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Ask Amy: Wife braces herself for husband’s adultery

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Now I’m not sure what to do. I love her and don’t want to break up. Maybe she was just upset about something and venting?

– Dumped On

Dear Dumped On: When you are upset about something and venting, do you trash her (or anybody else you love) using mocking and offensive language? When you’re mad at her, do you criticize her looks, her habits, and your sex life?

I assume you don’t.

She doesn’t respect you. Couples can come back from many things, but once the basic respect is gone, I don’t think you can get it back.

You have a tough conversation and a tough choice ahead.

Dear Amy: You provided an “update” to an “Unplugged Mom,” who was concerned about her young sons' immersion into video gaming.

So things worked out well, as she presumably followed your advice.


As a statistician, I must say that things could also have worked out well had she not followed your advice. There is no way to know.

I wouldn't be so quick to put a feather in your cap.

– Mark

Dear Mark: My cap remains resolutely featherless. Thank you.


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