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Ask Amy: Married couple ponders ‘opening’ their union

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

A partner is entitled to complicated feelings in response, but I would hope you'd encourage loving curiosity over anger. Love is about assuming positive intent and giving your partner the benefit of the doubt.

When you and others sow the idea that someone who asks for an open marriage has a secret agenda and really just wants to "stray," you encourage unfounded suspicion and hostility. And that's the root of domestic violence.

– Open Minded

Dear Open Minded: Thank you for telling about your own experience exploring an open marriage. I take your criticism to heart.



(You can email Amy Dickinson at or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)

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